1 Corinthians 13 was the subject of the sermon I watched this morning online. Perhaps, my favorite all-time chapter in the Bible. It’s a popular favorite, too, recited at weddings and funerals and known to people who aren’t particularly religious.
Some things that stand out to me from the sermon are these things: Love isn’t a feeling; it something that you do. Talent, skills and giftedness are things we value, but they don’t require or demonstrate love. An eloquent and inspirational speaker without love is like a clanging gong or cymbal.
I liked the analogy of the guitar solo vs. a gong solo. Who would do that? No one does a gong solo. That’s what talent is without love. It’s like someone doing a gong solo! Nothing but noise.
Not even prophecy, or knowledge or faith that can move mountains is worth anything if I don’t have love. If I give everything I own away to the poor and give my body up to be burned at the stake (the ultimate religious sacrifice), but I don’t have love, I gain nothing.
As I think about these things, it occurs to me that love isn’t (just) something that we do. It’s certainly true that the love being described isn’t a feeling that comes and goes. Love is more like a commitment than a feeling in that sense, and it is (partly) something that we do; but it’s much more than that.
And love is something that is completely out of our own hands.
“If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.”
If love was something we could do, we could boast about it. Therefore, what we do isn’t love, otherwise we could boast about it.
Thus, it dawns on me that love is something that we are, something that we can desire to be, something that we can become – but not on our own terms, not by our own efforts, not something that we can drum up within ourselves. Otherwise, again, we could boast about it.
I am reminded of these verses:
“God is love.”
“This is real love—not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as a sacrifice to take away our sins.”
Love comes from God, which means we need to receive it from God before we have it.
Love is also relational.
It’s curious to me that this passage speaks of giving away all I possess and giving up my body, but it gains me nothing if I don’t have love. Paul is clearly speaking to believers here. Who in their right mind would think that giving everything away to the poor or giving up the body to be abused and killed would be a way to gain anything? Unless, you are a believer already.
But think about that: giving away everything to the poor and giving up your very body for God is the ultimate sacrifice, right? What more can a person give?! Certainly, that would be enough to gain God’s favor and a sure place in heaven with God, right?
Paul says, “No!” It gains you nothing without love.
The reason is that love is not transactional. Love is relational. God doesn’t to give us what we are able to earn; God desires to give us everything out of the abundance of his own generosity (out of love). We can’t earn His love, because it is freely given.
Love is who we are when we receive God. It’s who we should desire to be as we give ourselves in relationship with God. It’s who we become as we allow God to work within us. None of it is our doing; it God’s doing in us.
How do we know what love is? How do we know whether we have love?
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails”
We all want to be loved, though we may not really have a clear understanding of what it means even to be loved. We might mistake recognition, respect, sex, generosity, and other things that people give us as love. Love is much, much more than all of that.
Love is relational, and we learn love in relation to God (first) and others. Love begets love. God desires not that we be workers in His field, but that we become His children – individual reflectors of His love. As children reflect the DNA they inherit from their parents, each in their own unique ways, we are created to reflect God’s love in our own unique ways for which God created each of us.
We don’t need to be highly skilled or gifted to do this, and those things mean nothing without love. We simply need to submit ourselves in relationship to God, receive His love and allow Him to work in us and through us as we work out what God is working withing us.
 “If I speak in the tongues [languages] of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. 3 If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing. 4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8 Love never fails. ” (NIV)
 1 Cor. 13:3
 1 John 4:8
 1 John 4:10 (NLT)
 1 Cor. 13:4-8